How To Have More Sex In Your Marriage
Be More Affectionate
Don't just be affectionate when you're in the mood. Remember: sex may not happen in the morning, but it begins in the morning. This means foreplay, touching, kissing, cuddling, etc. All those stimulants matter when you're trying to end with sex. Even if you have kids, are a bit older than before, or have different sex drives, you still have to manage it and be on the same page with each other. Don't underestimate the power of intimate touching without the expectation of sex because it can help stimulate the body to want sex later.
Words Of Affirmation
Talk about her, compliment her, and appreciate her. It makes her feel good and confident. If you're badmouthing your wife or comparing her to others, she won't feel confident in the bedroom. You won't have moisture, enthusiasm, or anything she can offer to make the experience more enjoyable if you don't build up her confidence and make her feel wanted beforehand.
Do Something New
Whether it's location, position, tricks, or toys – do something new, exciting, and different. Talk to your partner and have an honest conversation about both of your likes and dislikes, as well as new things you would both be willing to try in the bedroom to keep things spicy.
Don't Be Selfish With Sex
One of the key factors to women wanting more sex is learning what positions she likes and what makes her orgasm. Some people don't know their bodies well enough to know what works for them, so if something isn't working, try different things. When you find what works for you, you'll want to have more sex whether you're a man or a woman.
You should also communicate during sex, especially if you're getting too excited and your wife is taking longer to climax. Men must be aware if they need to take a pause and know not to be ashamed to communicate that they're getting close. For the same reason, don't watch too much porn before having intercourse. Some women can't climax from intercourse and so they instead engage in oral sex first before switching to intercourse. Discuss these things with each other and do what you need to so that both you and your wife can enjoy sex together.
Spend Time With Your Partner
Make an investment with time. Oftentimes, couples want to talk during sex but don't talk before sex. Conversing with your spouse means building up to that crescendo of sex. It's amazing how sometimes a conversation can stimulate you. Sometimes, it's arousing to just sit and talk about your feelings, and it helps you grow closer and build a deeper connection with each other.
Common Questions
How can we have more sex in our marriage?
Be affectionate all day, not just in the moment, because sex may not happen in the morning but it begins there. Speak words of affirmation that build her confidence, try something new together, refuse to be selfish in bed, and invest real time talking before you ever get close.
Why does affection outside the bedroom lead to more intimacy?
Because touching, kissing, and cuddling without the expectation of sex stimulate the body and the connection that make intimacy happen later. Sex may not happen in the morning, but it begins in the morning. Don't underestimate non-sexual affection as the on-ramp to wanting more.
How does what you say affect your sex life?
A lot. Compliment your wife and make her feel wanted, and her confidence in the bedroom grows. Badmouth her or compare her to others, and that confidence and her enthusiasm disappear. Build her up beforehand, because what happens in the bedroom starts with how you speak to her outside it.
Why is communication important during sex?
Knowing what your partner enjoys and what helps her climax changes everything, and most people have to talk and try things to find it. Communicate during sex too, especially if a man is getting close while his wife needs more time. Talking openly, without shame, makes it better for both.
