Things To Never Say To A Woman
What Is It Now?
It makes her feel like she's complaining too much and can cause her to not want to communicate with you anymore. Some people feel that women are overwhelming with their demands, and they constantly ask you to do something immediately after you do something else they asked you to do. So, if they start saying something, you might feel inclined to ask "what now?" This thought process is understandable, but there are better ways to approach this. For example, you might want to say instead, "Babe, what's on your mind? I'm listening." You and your spouse will always need emotional support and words of affirmation, so understand that this is something that might happen throughout your relationship. Don't get frustrated with it; learn from it. As a wise friend once said: if you have a thoroughbred, don't complain about the upkeep.
Body Shaming
- "You used to have such a nice body."
- "Your body used to be so hot."
- "Before you had kids, you had a sexy hourglass figure."
Saying things like that would absolutely crush your partner. The longer you're in a relationship, the more likely that both your bodies will change over time, especially due to age. It's almost always the case where even a beautiful woman feels insecure about someone who's taller, prettier, skinnier, smoother, has whiter teeth, etc. There will always be someone better. If you feed into that and tell your wife that her body isn't what it used to be, then this can crush her confidence and self-esteem.
While you should take care of yourself and your body as best you can, you should also respect the journey everyone goes through with their bodies. Acknowledge that your bodies evolve and change over time. Don't demoralize your wife by criticizing her looks, especially because you risk creating insecurities in them that might not have been there in the first place. When you deal with body image, it not only affects how they see themselves but also how they think you see them, especially in the bedroom. So, this type of talk can negatively affect your sexual life. Instead, compliment their body and the features you find attractive about them. In fact, men who sincerely frequently compliment their women typically have more sex.
Have It Your Way
- "Fine, have it your way."
- "Everything has to be your way."
- "You always get your way."
Saying this won't solve your conflicts because it's just a way of shutting down. You're shutting down the argument and simply saying "fine" without even trying to work together on a solution. Instead, say something like, "What do you feel?" or "What do you need?"
Telling Them They're Needy
A lot of women look to their husbands for support, security, and comfort in times of need. When you call them needy, they might seek someone else to fulfill that need. It makes her second-guess coming to you when she's vulnerable. Think about the previous suggestions: "What do you feel? What do you need?" You want your wife to turn to you instead of away from you. Your words set the atmosphere for your world.
