The Truth About Why Single Men Are Acting Passive
Fear of Rejection
A lot of women have the outlook that if they see someone they want, they'll go after it. However, many men feel like they don't want to be embarrassed by rejection if they go for it. Oftentimes, this is predicated on who he is as a man. Some men are used to rejection and willing to shoot their shot while some aren't. This can especially be the case when a woman is intimidatingly beautiful or successful; most men will be afraid to approach her. However, the man who is willing to shoot his shot, despite the risk of rejection, is more likely to get a date with her because he was willing to go for it. Sometimes in life, we sit back and overanalyze, then never approach or give it a shot.
It can also be the case where a man isn't 6 feet tall or makes a 6-figure salary or doesn't have the perfect body, and so he's afraid that he will be rejected because he doesn't fit the standard of beauty society has set for men. This can affect his confidence and ability to ask.
When it comes to fear of rejection nowadays, it's not just fear of being rejected in a one-on-one scenario. Now, men have to worry about being put on blast on social media or in a more public way. This amplifies the effect of the rejection. Men have seen other women shoot men down negatively in front of their friends, and so they become a joke.
Some Women Take Offense to A Man Taking the Lead
For a long time, women have been pushed to the side. Now, they're independent and more than capable of being successful on their own. It's normal thought now that a woman does not need a man. Moreover, our family structure has been dismantled because society no longer supports marriage as it did before. The result is a lot of single mothers teaching their children how to be independent and reinforcing the thought that they don't need men to live successful lives – especially because their mothers were able to do that.
It's typical nowadays for women to threaten their men during arguments and say that they don't need them. However, words have a lot of power, and it might be the case that eventually the man leaves them for someone who does need them. Many women now are successful, educated, and wealthy, but they can have it all if they are willing to understand that, while women can do anything, they must also let men be men.
Oftentimes, women say that they want their man to open doors for them but then, when he does it, they complain that they can open their own doors and don't need a man to do it for them. As a woman, you have to identify the role you want to play. Do you want a biblical marriage or do you want something different? A man brings something to the table the same as you, but if you minimize the value he's bringing, then you won't find a man because no one wants to feel belittled or not valued.
Low Self-Esteem
We see this a lot, especially in the case of single mothers raising their sons. Men who grew up in households with strong-willed women often weren't allowed to assert themselves in any way, shape, or form. Now, in the man's mind, they think that's all that women are because that was their example of how women are. Not every mother is a good example of what a good wife can be, so men should be aware not to project those expectations onto all women. Don't allow your past to dictate your future.
