Why Do Celebrities Have So Many Issues with Relationships?
Not everybody can relate to being a celebrity, but if you are married and also have a lot of friendships, this can make your relationship equally complicated. Sometimes we let others' opinions of our spouses influence our opinions of them and how we treat them. You may be more tolerant of your spouse doing certain things whereas now your friends are giving their own opinions of what he does or how you respond to it, and now it affects how you think about it.
Be very careful who you allow as friends. Be mindful that a relationship is an investment of time. So, if you have too many relationships that are not your primary relationship, it takes away from that primary relationship. We're not saying you can't have friends, but make sure that your primary relationship – the artery of your life and your heart – is clear. If not, you'll have a problem. Be mindful of the people you surround yourself with because they may influence you in the wrong direction.
If you have a lot of friendships, be mindful of the amount of time you spend with your spouse. Like regular people, celebrities travel a lot, have a lot of appointments, have busy schedules, have to take care of their children, etc. They and their spouse can't spend as much time together as they could if they didn't have all those obligations.
You have to prioritize and structure. A lot of times with celebrities, many don't participate in a biblical construct of marriage. Celebrities have their own large sums of money and don't need to rely on their spouse. They're much more independent than the average person. In fact, many celebrity spouses live separately because they can afford to, unlike a financially struggling couple who lives together because they can split the bills. Be mindful that celebrity doesn't mean commitment because sometimes, the marriage is for show or is a continuation of a film or show that they participate in for popularity and career boosts.
There is also so much more temptation for infidelity when you're a celebrity because everyone wants to be with a famous person. Let's say you're shooting a movie where you have to kiss a beautiful woman or shoot a nude scene with her, but you also haven't seen your wife in months. The temptation is out of this world – even more so if you don't have strong moral principles. When you spend a lot of time with someone, especially more time with them than your spouse, you're making an investment with them and building a relationship.
The more you put yourself out there, the more you're opening yourself up to different things, different people, and different temptations. You have to be very intentional about spending the most time with the people who are the most important to you. If you find yourself spending more time with your friend than your spouse, it's a recipe for disaster. Celebrities are more prone to falling into this temptation because of the excess of everything at their fingertips. Everything is "yes" to a celebrity – they're not used to hearing "no".
It's important to be aware of the relationships you choose to keep and the ones you choose not to keep. Maybe you're spending more time with people outside your marriage than your spouse. Things that you see on TV and things you read in tabloids – that could be you if you're not being careful with the time you choose to spend with other people outside the relationship.
Remember: all that glitters is not gold.
Common Questions
Why do celebrities struggle so much with relationships?
Busy schedules, constant travel, and financial independence mean many spend little time together and don't rely on each other. Add intense temptation, since everyone wants a famous person, and marriages that are sometimes just for show. The same lessons apply to anyone whose friendships and obligations pull at their primary relationship.
How do friendships affect your marriage?
A relationship is an investment of time, so too many outside relationships drain your primary one. You can have friends, but keep the main artery, your marriage, clear. Be mindful who you surround yourself with, because they can influence you in the wrong direction and even shape how you view your spouse.
Why does spending time apart create temptation?
Because investment follows time. When you spend more time with someone, especially more than your spouse, you build a relationship and open a door to temptation. Picture not seeing your spouse for months while working closely with someone attractive. Be intentional about giving the most time to the people who matter most.
How do you protect your marriage from outside influences?
Be deliberate about who you keep close and how much time you give them, and don't let others' opinions of your spouse shape how you treat them. Prioritize and structure your time so your marriage gets your best, not your leftovers. Remember, all that glitters is not gold.
