Why Men Feel Pressure In The Bedroom
A Man Has to Perform
The pressure to perform well can be a huge source of stress. For healthy men, it comes naturally, but the challenge is that if you expose yourself to the wrong things, you can mess up your wiring. For example, it can be a total turn-off if his wife tries something new in the bedroom that he doesn't actually like. This is why it's so important to discuss what you both like and don't like in the bedroom before doing it. This can give a man anxiety, especially if he hears other men boasting about all the things they've tried in the bedroom but he hasn't tried or isn't into those things. Men also are afraid of women talking about their performance in the bedroom with their friends.
Depression
With depression, your self-esteem and confidence is low. All those things that create the machismo of a man matters. A woman needs to build him up and make him feel good about himself in order for him to perform at his best.
Disinterest in His Partner
Sometimes it's disinterest or sometimes he's just not attracted to his partner anymore. People's bodies change over the years for all sorts of reasons, whether it's age, childbirth, medical reasons, diet changes, accidents, etc. The problem is that everyone's bodies change over time, regardless of how well they eat or exercise. Everyone's bodies will droop and sag with age. This is why it's so important that you don't see physical attraction as being only about the body.
Low Testosterone Levels
One of the signs of low testosterone is that he may no longer even have the urge to have sex. This is an issue to see a doctor about to try to find a solution for. Especially with age, men must adjust their diet and exercise to keep up their stamina and drive. Don't ignore the changes that age brings. Be honest and do what needs to be done.
Overexcitement
Getting overexcited and prematurely ejaculating can be a huge pressure point for men, especially since most women take longer to orgasm. Sometimes, you just need to slow down or get your mind to a different place. This can also be something that your wife works on with you to keep you from getting overly excited. Communicate with your spouse so that you can cultivate a better and slower bedroom experience. What's more important is to not think that overexcitement is a bad thing. It just means that your spouse is too good at what she's doing!
3 Potential Solutions
Talk About the Issue with Your Spouse
It's important to talk with your spouse about the issue so you both can know what the issue is and deal with it accordingly.
Exercise
Research has shown that there's a direct link between men who exercise and perform well in the bedroom compared to men who don't exercise. Do some type of cardio or weight lifting on a regular basis. It's not just about performing in the bedroom either – it's about making it part of your lifestyle.
See a Doctor
Never be ashamed to discuss with a doctor what you can do or take to fix your bedroom issues. However, never self-medicate. Many men have had to go to the hospital because they took too many performance-enhancing drugs.
