Why Men Don't Talk About Their Feelings
Men Are Taught Not to Show Their Feelings
This isn't healthy for a relationship. Men must learn to express their feelings, especially their pain. As men, you must work on expressing yourselves more so that you can let your partner in.
Men Are Problem Solvers
If they see a problem, they want to just solve it and be done with it without talking or processing it through words. Mark Twain said, "To a man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail." Many men just want to get to the end of it and reach the solution. How many men have cut their wives off, while they're trying to talk and process the situation through words, and said, "Okay, so what's the solution?" or "Okay, can you tell me the problem so we can get to the solution?"
Men Tend to Internalize Their Issues
Men often want to pretend like their issues aren't there. However, the problem with bottling everything up is that it eventually explodes out, usually at the wrong place and time. It'll be exaggerated and blown out of proportion and cause people to think that they're mismanaging their emotions.
Men Hope Relationship Issues Will Go Away
Oftentimes in relationships, men see the issue slapping them in the face but don't want to deal with it to avoid confrontation or potential fallout. Sweeping your issues under the rug means you'll never get out of the situation and things will never change. If you don't confront something, you're allowing it. So, don't complain about things that you're allowing to happen. Be mindful that love comforts and love confronts, whether you hate confrontation or not, and this goes both ways. Whether you or your partner don't like what the other has to say, you still have to say it. When you try to avoid confrontation, it means you don't trust that person with your heart. When you trust someone with your heart, you know that you can be vulnerable with them and discuss difficult things. You know that regardless of what they say, they will protect your heart.
Men Don't Get How Important the Issue Is
Sometimes, men think that an issue isn't as important as their partner thinks it is. Often, men don't understand the totality of the damage. Sometimes, women wait too long to communicate the issue, and when they do, it isn't communicated in a way that the person can receive or is ready for. You put yourself in a bad spot when you don't set the stage for a difficult conversation because those are always part of a relationship. It also goes back to trust in each other.
